I now pronouce you Mr. and Mrs. Kimbo

Well blog friends, I am proud to announce that as of 5pm yesterday, Phil and I were pronounced husband and wife. I am now officially Mrs. Phillip Fry.

May 9th was our one year anniversary of the day we first met, and we decided what better day to get married then on our anniversary. As much as we wanted to have a bigger celebration with our families, money didn't permit it, and instead we had a very small, intimate ceremony with my parents with a justice of the peace. He performed a very beautiful ceremony, he had some wonderful things to say about marriage and the commitment we were making to each other and he actually had a tear in his eye as he performed it. We figure after a day of having to deal with court and sending people to jail, it must be so nice to end the day by marrying couples.

After the wedding my parents took us out to dinner and we had a great time. There was a balloon artist there who came up to us and asked if we wanted a balloon and my mom told them that we had just gotten married, so he made me a balloon that looked like a whip and Phil one that was handcuffs haha! And my mom also told the waitress that we had just gotten married so at the end of the meal she brought the both of us a dish of ice cream, on the house.

It was a very fun day and night, and even though we didn't do anything special or have a big fancy celebration, it was perfect for us. We have already felt like we were married for the past year, but now we just made it officially. I never thought that I would have the chance to get married but now that I am it feels nice to know that I have a family of my own now. I have always wanted someone to stand by my side and support me through life's ups and downs and it is so nice to look at him and know that he loves me unconditionally and that we have our whole life together to make wonderful memories.

Wedding, Arthritis Walk, and More!

Hello blog friends!

I am so sorry I haven't been blogging, from what I can see here, it looks like the last time I posted was back in March!

The reason for not posting is because Phil and I moved back into Queen Creek and where we are at, I haven't been able to pick up a wireless Internet signal. So the only chance I get right now to come online is when I am over at my parent's house. But within the next month I will be getting Internet at the house, so I will be up and running and back to normal blogging.

Things have been going well for Phil and I. We are coming up on our one year anniversary and we decided what better way to celebrate the day then to get married on the day we met a year ago. So he called up the Justice of the Peace on Friday and scheduled Friday, May 9th as the big day. Even though we had thought about saving up and having a bigger affair, but in the end we could really use the money we can save for other things in our life, and we want just a simple ceremony to celebrate our love and new life together.

We also are finally getting the chance to start the business we've been wanting to start. Phil has been wanting to become a licensed contractor and work for either Lowe's or Home Depot installing doors and windows, which are his speciality. So he has been taking study classes so he can pass the business license test and then after he passes that he will be filing the papers to get the LLC and to get bonded. There is a lot of money that can be made in being a licensed contractor and doing the type of work he will be doing, and I am looking forward to being the office manager and running the business, getting the work in and scheduling appointments and doing the bookkeeping. I have always loved doing office work and this is going to be so great having work to do again.

Phil and I are also excited about participating in the 2008 Arthritis Walk this Saturday, May 3rd, at the Phoenix Zoo. So far we have raised $250! Thank you to everyone who has donated, it really means a lot that you have supported a cause that is very near and dear to my heart.

As soon as I get full time Internet, I will let you all know and I will be back to regular blogging. I hope this blog finds you all well!

Where in the world is Kimbo??

Don't worry guys...Kimbo is still here!!

I STILL can not pick up WiFi at home, which means no Internet access for me unless I come over to my parents house, which is where I am today. I can't tell you how much I miss the Internet and blogging and chatting with all my friends. I hope this gets fixed soon so I can get back to my regular online schedule :)

Nothing new has been going on really. I've been feeling a lot better since seeing the specialist who advised that the pain in my side was no longer the kidney infection, but just back pain. I have been off the antibiotics for three weeks now and am doing fine, just occasional pain in my side that feels better with Tylenol. Then again, after sitting in a wheelchair for three years, I guess your back would start hurting lol.

I did do something that I love this past weekend, and that was go to the Renaissance Festival with Mindy. Her and I go at least once every year and we love it each time. The Renaissance Period has always been my favorite and the festival each year is like a shire, with lots of food and artisan vendors who make jewelry and wood-working, and other beautiful things. I had so much fun and since Phil has never been to the festival before, I am hoping that I can take him the weekend after next, which is the last weekend that it is here.

Phil and I have been thinking about getting married on our one-year anniversary, which is May 9th. We've had to postpone our wedding twice, both times because I had that stupid kidney infection and had ended up back in the hospital. Now that I have a clean bill of health and our anniversary is coming up, we thought that might be the perfect day. But nothing is set in stone yet, I am just so looking forward to getting married.

Well, that's about all that's going on around here, I will blog again either when I get my Internet back working, or next time I am over at my parent's house. And a reminder, Phil and I are still participating in the Arthritis Walk on May 3rd at the Phoenix Zoo and right now we have raised $225!!! Thank you to everyone so far who has donated and if you are able to donate to our cause, then please check out the blog that is underneath this one titled "Phoenix Arthritis Walk 2008" to find the link to my team site.

Until next time!!

YAY!!

Guess whose coming home tomorrow!!??

Yes, blog friends, Phil is coming home tomorrow and I am so excited. Turns out his work really screwed him over on the whole deal down there, not sending his check to him on time, and now not paying his per Diem for food and motel cost, meaning that the extra money he makes that we could save away to start our business will go to pay for his motel and food. He might as well come back home and work a normal work week instead of working long hours on the weekend for basically nothing.

Even though its only been a week today since he left, it has been a long week for both of us. We are miserable without each other, and the nights around here have been pretty lonely. I was starting to get used to being alone though, I didn't like it, but I was handling it better then the first few days he was gone. But I am so glad he's coming home, now we can go back to our routine, and there is so much we want to do now that the weather is nice that we had to postpone, so now we can do things again. Plus he will be here to help with wedding plans, and I feel better knowing he's here to help me make decision, so it feels like his wedding too.

Speaking of which, I got the invites to the reception done today and they are so adorable! All I have left to do is address then envelopes and then mail them out in the morning. Once we get married then we will do the same thing but as announcements to send out to the rest of our family and friends.

Well, I am off to start some dinner, and also start watching as many shows as I can on the DVR. I have been going through all my shows each night, trying to get caught up, since he doesn't like all the same shows I do, but I was behind a couple weeks because I just didn't have the time to watch. So hopefully I can get caught up so I don't get behind anymore.

Video Blog: Pissy Sunday

Change of Plans and A Milestone

OK...so the wedding plans have changed a bit, but I think for the better.

The original plan was for us to get married on Nov. 24th, with a small reception afterward, with just close family and friends. Well, the reception is still on for the 24th, that hasn't changed, but looking into officiants, it just costs so much and seeing as I am planning this on short notice, and it being a holiday weekend, there really isn't anyone available. And my dad thought of getting ordained online to perform the service, but then, who knows if all those sites out there where you can get ordained are legal, and what if we find out down the road that is wasn't.

So, we decided to do the simple way to get married, and head down to the Justice of the Peace. Really, we just want to get married and this is not only the most cost-effective way to do it, but to us, it doesn't matter where we get married, as long as we do. So I spoke to the women today, who seemed so nice and happy for us, and she put us on her calendar for Nov. 20th after 5pm. My parents will be there and I am going to ask her Monday when I call to confirm if it is OK if we want to say our own vows, since we each have some written. It may not be the way we originally wanted it, but we'll be married and that's all that matters. I'd marry him anywhere, anytime. What will be great is that we'll still have the reception on Nov. 24th with our family and friends, and seeing as we'll already be married, we'll be more relaxed to enjoy ourselves.

Now...what is this milestone I mentioned in the subject line?

We've hit the 1000 mark here at Kimbo Central, which means that my blog has been viewed 1000 times. The counter is at the top of the page, on the left hand side, and I believe as I write this the count is at 1020. I'm pretty excited! I seemed to have a group of readers, mainly family and friends, but still, it is really cool to me that you all come here and check out what is going on with my life. The whole concept of blogging is really great, I think, it is sort of like having a journal or a record of your life events, something you can always come back to and look at and reflect on how you've changed, or how life has changed. I read through some of my old blogs recently, blog upon blog of all the dating struggles I was once going through and how I developed the mentality that I was going to end up alone. Now, I am a month away from getting married to the man that I have been waiting and hoping for. I hope as my blog gets 1000 more hits, that my life will take me in more unexpected and wonderful places that I can share with all of you.

Video Blog: Save The Date!

*Sigh*

Well, looks like we are still on the apartment search. Saturday we headed over to the complex that Mindy lives in, which we found has some strict qualification guidelines, the one upsetting me the most was that each of us, individually, has to make 3x the rent in income each month. Now, being on Disability, I make just enough to pay the rent, with absolutely nothing left over, yet Phil makes very good money, so we just combine our two incomes. This complex wouldn't have that though, so because I make so little each month, we're not able to get the apartment. I was upset about it, but after seeing the apartment, as much as there was a lot of room for me to get around (it was a handicap unit), there was a few things I didn't like, such as I would have to be constantly backing in and out of the kitchen to get to the stove and fridge and sink, and the bedroom was big, but narrow, and I wasn't able to get my chair into the closet.

So the search continues. It's just going to keep taking legwork to find the right place, and I am trying to be optimistic, but it just seems we keep hitting roadblocks. I guess I figured since things have come so easy to us so far, this would be easy as well. So I will be spending this week making calls and getting all the information on places, so this weekend we know which ones to look at.

Oh...people have been writing to me asking when we are headed off to Vegas. Well, looks like that trip isn't going to happen. His work seems to be wishy-washy on the whole thing, pushing the time they need to be there back, and he is under the impression it just isn't going to happen. So that's why we've decided to start looking for a place to rent, since before we weren't going to until after we got back from Vegas. As for getting married, we'll probably do something very simple here, and spend a weekend in Vegas as a honeymoon. But right now, our first priority is finding an apartment and getting settled in, and from there we'll figure out when we'll get married.

I fought the closet....

And I won!!

Yes folks, after finally getting my lazy butt away from the computer and out of my jammies, I attacked the closet. I mainly had clothes that I just have been too lazy to put away stashed over on the side that will be Phil's side, plus some storage boxes and other crap. So I put all the clothes away, and lugged the storage boxes out in the garage, along with other misc. stuff. I organized and threw stuff away and after about 2 hours, I am happy to report the closet is clean! I feel so much better now that I got that done. That was the biggest thing I needed to do to get ready for Phil moving in. I want him to feel at home here, even though we will only be here for a short time.

Mom and I have been discussing my bridal shower, and we decided we're just going to have a lunch. I really don't like shower games, so I decided not to bother with those. So we're going to make a nice lunch and everyone can sit around and talk, then open gifts and have some dessert. It will be simple but fun. I never thought I would be able to have a bridal shower, so this is fun for me. I have helped planned them before, but to be the bride will be fun. Now this means Phil and I have to go register for things. That should be a lot of fun!

Well, time for me to put the old laptop away and get comfy watching whatever it is I have taped on the tivo here before it gets filled up. I've been neglecting the poor thing lately!

More Kimbo Ramblings

I was in such a bad mood today, and I am not even sure completely why. This is the happiest time of my life, being engaged to a wonderful man who as of August I will be so proud to call my husband. But I just feel out of sorts lately. Like I am not sure what to do with myself, its as though I am unsure of myself and my abilities. And I know it is silly. I guess when one chapter of your life ends and another begins, it just makes you think. But I wouldn't trade any of this.

I did come to realize the other day my relief that I will no longer ever have to deal with dating. Putting yourself out there, getting rejected, meeting weirdos, getting your heart broken. I am done with it all, and it is like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I've never been one who enjoyed dating. First dates were something I dreaded. There is nothing worse then going out with someone for the first time, and being on your best behavior, trying to impress them, with the every annoying awkward silence that always happens. No wondering after the date if your ever going to hear from them again. Dating to me seemed like an interview process. Trying to show that person how much better you are then all the rest of the prospects.

I deal much better with relationships, being with that one person, knowing that no matter what, they are there for you. I am excited about getting married!! It is something that I have always wanted. I am a natural caregiver and nurturer, and the idea of having a spouse and children and a home to take care of has always appealed to me. I look forward to having Phil come home from work and telling me about his day while we have dinner together, and being able to have him be the last thing I see when I go to sleep, and the first thing I see when I wake up in the morning. Having him beside me through life, through good times and bad, knowing that I will never have to be alone in this life, because even when we are apart, he is still with me.

I was perfectly content being alone, and being single, for the rest of my life. I had actually resigned myself to being that way. But now that I met him, my life has meaning, and it has a purpose, and that is to love him and be the best wife and mother to our children that I can be. I wonder, and even worry, at times that I may not be a good wife, that maybe I won't be able to make him happy. But I see now I just need to be myself, be the women that he fell in love with, and that by doing that, I will be good at this wife thing.

Its just time for me to stop worrying about the little things, and focus on being engaged and being happy and just let life happen as it does. Things will be a lot better though once we are together on a daily basis, and we don't have to go days being apart. I think right now that's what a lot of my problem is, I miss him so much. When we are together, it feels right. To leave him at the end of the night, it just feels wrong. Watching him walk away, its heartbreaking.

My wedding news

So in my blog this morning I said I had some news to share, but had to wait until I told a few more people. So now I can share my news.

Phil is going to be working on a project for the MGM Grand in Las Vegas in August for a few weeks, and he asked me if I would like to join him up there. He gets a lot of freebies, including free room at the MGM, free food, free gas, free shows, etc. So we would really just need to pay for my expenses.

At the same time, my mom and I had been racking our brains on how we were going to pay for a wedding. I don't come from money, and weddings these days are just so expensive and no matter how long we wait, there is just not going to be enough money for anything. So mom suggested that since we were already in Vegas, why not get married then.

So Phil and I talked about it, and we decided that we are going to get married in August in Las Vegas. I don't have a date yet, because right now we don't know when he is going to have to be there for start work, but August it is! The only thing that I don't like about this situation is that my parents won't be able to be there, because they won't be able to get the time off from their work, but we are going to have the ceremony broadcast online via webcam, so at least my family and friends will be able to watch it that way.

I've already start preparing. I bought him a wedding present the other day, and I also got his wedding ring. And today I found a very nice dress that will be perfect and ordered it.

I know some of you are going to think, and have even told me, that this seems a little soon, but it feels right. We know we want to get married, if we didn't we wouldn't have gotten engaged. Its just better cost-wise for us to do it this way, plus we're already going to be in Vegas for awhile, so might as well have some fun and get married while we're there.

We are both really happy and excited about this. I hope that all my family and friends will be happy for us as well, and support us. I know you all worry about me, and want the best for me, but I have found it in Phil. I am not getting married to him because I don't want to be alone, but because he enhances my life and brings something to it that I have been missing. And this just feels right, when I look at him I know in my heart that I am meant to spend the rest of my life with him. I never used to believe in soul mates, but now, I do.